The Process Is the Point: How Letting Go of the Outcome Changes Everything
TL;DR – Key Takeaways
- Chasing outcomes won’t sustain you. Real transformation happens in the daily process—not in the results you’re waiting on.
- Your identity matters more than performance. Purpose-driven living starts when you stop proving and start aligning.
- Faith and personal growth are slow but sacred. Galatians 6:9 reminds us the harvest comes when we don’t give up.
- The L.I.F.E. Method helps you walk it out. With four simple steps—Leverage, Integrate, Focus, Execute—you can rebuild momentum with clarity.
- You don’t need a perfect plan. Just a process you’re willing to commit to, one aligned step at a time.
The Process Is the Point
I’m a semi gym rat. My goal is 5 days a week, but I rarely hit all 5—life always gets in the way.
(Or at least that’s the excuse I’m sticking to.)
Now here we are in the fourth quarter sprawl.
Holidays are coming.
The weight I wanted to drop hasn’t dropped.
So, if you’re like me, you might be tempted to call it a wrap on the body journey until January.
But here’s the reality:
I’m a results guy.
And that’s most of us.
We love the win. We chase the finish line.
Promotions. Paychecks. The perfectly executed plan.
The more we hit the target, the more we convince ourselves—this is it.
This is the thing that’ll finally make me feel secure.
Seen.
Successful.
But here’s the truth I had to learn the hard way:
Outcomes don’t transform you. The process does.
So what, you ask, does my workout schedule or lack thereof has to do with this post?
Everything!
Working out isn’t about the new you, it’s about the transformation that happens through the process.
And this is not just true with a working out, it’s holds true for life’s resets, pivots and reinvention.
We’ve been conditioned to believe that success is a destination.
If you can just get the job, land the deal, drop the weight, write the book, launch the brand, then you’ll feel worthy.
Whole.
At peace.
But I’ve been there. I’ve climbed the corporate ladder, crossed the proverbial finish lines, and stood confident on stages. And still felt deflated.
Not because I didn’t work hard.
But because I wasn’t chasing growth. I was chasing validation.
And when the applause stopped, so did my sense of purpose.
I tied my value to what I could prove, not who I actually was.
That mindset burned me out.
And realigned me.
Here’s what that realignment taught me:
The outcome, good or bad is going to be the outcome.
How you get there, the processes is where the magic happens.
Why We Chase Outcomes
After every major shift in my life:
- Significant health challenges
- Identity disconnects
- Spiritual awakenings
- Career disruption
…I had to face a deeper truth:
I was addicted to outcomes.
Beat cancer.
Show up authentically.
Get aligned.
Secure that next “job.”
But I was skipping the part that actually transforms you.
I was disregarding the process. Overlooking it. Devaluing it.
So, then I did something most people avoid:
I got quiet.
I slowed down.
I looked inward.
And I realized—I had been rebuilding my life around performance and expectations, not alignment.
A choice had to be made:
Keep rushing to the finish—or finally embrace the process.
The Turning Point: From Performance to Alignment
Now I’m going to say the quiet part out loud:
We all want the desired outcome—
but we love to avoid the process.
We want the win without the work.
The clarity without the stillness.
The transformation without the tension.
But the truth is—outcomes are earned in the trenches.
Every time I walk into the gym, I snap into the zone.
Minimize distractions.
Focus on form.
Get the workout done.
This is the part most people want to skip:
- The boring
- The repetitive
- The uncomfortable
- The parts no one claps for
This is the process.
What the Process Actually Looks Like
If you’ve been following my journey, you know I’m in the middle of some major life transitions.
I got laid off.
I started my coaching practice.
I left the 9–5 world to bet on me.
That’s a heavy load.
And right now, my process is about carrying that load with intention—
figuring out what it’s going to take to move toward the life I actually want.
What does that life look like for me?
Leveraging my skills, natural abilities, and lived experience
to create income streams that support the freedom I want in my life.
Embracing the Tension
So in this season—where things feel slow, uncertain, and probably look crazy to some—
I’m learning to embrace the process.
- Upgrading professional skills I haven’t touched in a while
- Developing my coaching voice
- Auditing my life story to see what aligns with where I’m going
These are the processes I need to walk through to reach the outcome.
This is where growth lives.
This is where clarity is forged.
This is where alignment becomes real—not just something I say, but something I live.
The process isn’t what you go through to get the reward.
The process is the reward.
And when you stop chasing the result and start honoring your rhythm, everything changes. You:
- Make choices that reflect who you are—not who you’re trying to impress
- Take action from alignment—not anxiety
- Learn to trust your process—even when the payoff hasn’t shown up yet
This is exactly why I built the L.I.F.E. Method.
It’s how I’ve learned to live on purpose, lead with clarity, and thrive by design—not by accident.
It’s not a checklist.
It’s not a quick fix.
It’s a framework for living aligned—in real time, through real challenges, with real purpose.
Bottom line:
You’ll never reach your true outcome if you don’t respect the process.
That means doing the work.
Living it out in real time.
The outcome is a byproduct.
Who you become in the process—that’s the real win.
But What If the Outcome Doesn’t Happen (Yet)?
“Let us not grow weary in doing good, for at the proper time we will reap a harvest if we do not give up.”
The verse says not to grow weary—but let’s be real.
That’s exactly what happens when you’re doing the work and nothing’s moving.
You’ve shown up. You’ve been faithful. You’ve done everything “right.”
And still, it feels like the breakthrough hasn’t landed.
Here’s what I’ll say:
If your process is aligned, your breakthrough is inevitable. Stay the course.
Transformation doesn’t follow your timeline—it follows your integrity.
We don’t grow because the world claps for us.
We grow because we keep showing up when nobody’s watching.
Staying the course through silence and uncertainty requires more than discipline—it requires a foundation of faith and personal growth.
If this part of the journey feels familiar, this post on the real cost of change unpacks the deeper work required when you’re caught between clarity and discomfort.
A Moment to Reflect
What would shift for you if you stopped measuring success by what you achieve and started honoring how you show up every day?
How to Walk It Out with the L.I.F.E. Method
The L.I.F.E. Method isn’t a quick fix—it’s a framework for purpose-driven living in real time, through real challenges, with real clarity.
Showing up is what PR4LIFE is built on.
It’s not about performance—it’s about truth.
I don’t coach people to hit goals just to check boxes.
I offer mindset coaching rooted in identity, clarity, and aligned action.
I coach people to realign with who they are, clarify what matters, and build a new way of showing up—from the inside out.
It’s not a race. It’s a rhythm.
And every step—every habit, every honest check-in, every “I don’t feel like it but I’m doing it anyway”—
that is the work that transforms you.
Let’s make this real.
Here’s how you begin honoring the process—one aligned step at a time.
The L.I.F.E. Method: 4 Process-Driven Action Steps
🔹 Leverage
Identify one habit, skill, or strength you’re underutilizing.
Instead of focusing on what’s missing, ask: What do I already have that I’m not using fully right now?
🔍 Example: You’re great at organizing—can you apply that to structure your week or map your goals?
🔹 Integrate
Take one small action to align your behavior with your values.
This week, choose one area where your actions are out of sync with what you say matters most—and realign it.
🔧 Example: If you value health but haven’t been moving, commit to one walk or workout—not a whole plan, just a rep.
🔹Focus
Pick a single priority for the next 7 days—and block time for it.
Forget multitasking. Focus is where momentum lives. Block 30–60 minutes and show up like it matters.
🎯 Example: You’ve been saying you want to update your resume or start writing. Schedule it, then do it.
🔹Execute
Take one bold step this week, especially if it’s uncomfortable.
Growth lives in the reps you resist. The goal isn’t perfection—it’s follow-through.
🚀 Example: Make the call. Submit the application. Post the content. Send the email. Whatever you’ve been avoiding—do that.
You don’t have to earn your worth. But you do have to own your walk.
And when you do—outcomes become a byproduct, not the goal.
Final Thought
The process isn’t a placeholder.
It’s not what you suffer through while you wait for something better to arrive.
The process is where your character is shaped,
your confidence is built,
and your clarity is forged.
It’s where you stop performing and start aligning.
So if you’re in a slow season, a hard stretch, or that in-between space where nothing’s landing—Don’t. Tap. Out.
Refuse the urge to retreat just because the reward hasn’t shown up yet.
Keep showing up.
Not for the applause.
Not for the proof.
But because you’ve decided to live in alignment—on your terms.
Stay in the process.
Stay in motion.
Let purpose do what pressure never could.
You don’t need a perfect plan. You need a faithful process.
Let the work, work on you.
You don’t need another blueprint for someone else’s life.
You need a rhythm that aligns with who you are and where you want to go.
If you are still stuck between where you’ve been and where you feel called to go—then consider this your next step forward.
Your Next Step Forward
Whether you’re rebuilding, reinventing, or learning how to realign your life after a major shift, here’s where you can start:
🛠️ The 6 Steps Mini Course
— Realign your identity, reset your rhythm, and rebuild from the inside out.
— Let’s map out your next right step together. No pressure. Just purpose.
Today you have one decision to make:
Will you keep fixating on results?
Or start honoring your process?
Live on Purpose. Lead with Clarity. Thrive by Design.
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